Feeling The Pressure

Over the last few weeks a lot has taken place and a lot of changes have happened in our family……I am Feeling the Pressure from people close to me to change our way of living.

Yesterday was “Are You OK” day here in Australia. And really this post should have been written then.

And I am trying to let it go…..

I am trying not to think along their way of lifestyle…..

I am trying not to think about “Living The Normal Way” – mind you what is the normal way of living anymore?

I am trying to hold it together within so that my boys don’t see me losing it.

I am trying not to be hurt by the words that those closest to me are shouting at me.

And I am no longer wanting to be online at the  moment…..actually that thought has been creeping up on me strongly for a few weeks!

I used to love blogging, I used to love reading other bloggers and connecting with them but again I am Feeling the Pressure to check emails, twitter, facebook, look at our stats, reply to comments and find ways to grow our blog!!

And then I am feel the Pressure from all of the family to hand over the computer because they want/need it.

ITS ALL TOO MUCH.

As well as homeschool, explore new areas and see more of Sydney. Flying solo with two of our boys most of the time.

So I am going back to Basics  for the time being – I will blog when/if I feel like it.

No longer will I bend to society rules…..and no longer will I let those closest to me treat me like I am doing a bad job by raising my boys with our way of living.

For those who want to live their life their way, without me saying anything, you need to let me do the same.

For those that think they can scream at me when I express my feelings, then be prepared for me to turn within and ignore you.

I am stronger than I ever used to be, and I am growing stronger within- what’s that saying??

Letting go of the pressure

Letting Love Flow

Smelling the Flowers

Taking the Time To Appreciate The Flowers

“What doesn’t Kill Me Makes Me Stronger”

Well its time to let the Pressure go – let me be true to myself. Sure is something that I am now going to concentrate on with my boys ~ From now on I am going to be more conscious to let them grow at their own rate and to let there true inner self shine instead of expecting them to confirm to what society expects from them.

I guess you could say that I am grateful that “New Life on the Road” has given me this experience ~ I am finding myself after losing myself for so many years….parenting five boys does that to a person!

And I am enjoying my time reflecting on how much has changed.

For me the experience of travelling my way is also playing a big role in how I want to be a Better Person/Better Mum. I am connecting with other Homeschoolers and I am grateful for their inspiration. I hear what they are doing with their families and I admire their courage. I like listening to their parenting styles ~ they all do what’s right for their families. They are Strong Women who believe in themselves.

No More

I am also not going to chase other people’s ideas….they can chase their own way of wanting to make money. Chasing money never works anyway, chasing passion does. If you are passionate about what you are doing then the money will come anyway. If you forget about what’s true to yourself then you will never be rich.

Getting Into Shape ::

For me this is really Important. I was really fit when I was Pre-Children. I was really fit when we only had three boys. I am going to be really fit now that I am refocused on getting back my body.

Staying True ::

To myself with my goals/passion/dreams and not taking on anyone’s other ideas is the goal for this year. Funny I have never ever be into “New Year’s Resolutions” but I am setting one in September!

Not Listening ::

Yep. Sorry but I am not going to listen to anyone who can not treat my feelings as being important. Scream as much as you want about your ideas. I will listen when you are respectful.

Scream as loud as you like. Watch my back walk away…..from now on my feelings are important to.

Letting The Pressure Go ::

Being kinder, being more understanding, listening within, and letting go. Something I want my boys to see so that they learn they have important feelings and that they can express their own feelings without having to be pressured to confirm.Without being scared to talk.

Sharing Here ::

When/If I feel like it. There wont be regular postings for the time being. I will share when I can.

Be YourSelf ::

If there is something that I can give you all its this…..Be Yourself. Be True To Yourself. Follow Your Dreams ~ and stay strong.

Are You OK?

Thanking you for following our Journey.

Cheers

Lisa

New Life on the Road.

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14 thoughts on “Feeling The Pressure

  • September 13, 2013 at 11:39 am
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    Well said Lisa and good on you, taking care of ourselves is usually right down on the priority list as a parent and as a woman so I think you are doing a great thing. Ignore the naysayers and do what is right for you. 🙂

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    • September 18, 2013 at 9:16 pm
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      Thanking you Korina for the Online Support as well as your Strong offline support. I love connecting with others who are Homeschooling/Parenting Gently and I am loving finding me again 🙂
      Such inspiration from the Wollongong Homeschooling Group xx

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    • September 18, 2013 at 9:17 pm
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      Thanks Caz for being so kind with your words, and for supporting our blog.
      Its about letting go…something I am working on 🙂

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  • September 13, 2013 at 10:03 pm
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    Very good to have boundaries with people and not listen when they shout and yell… I don’t mind criticism, can put my big girls pants on and deal with it, but only when offered with civility and respect.

    Being online can be exhausting and overwhelming… and children sure let us know when they feel ignored. Always good to have a break, re-group, and gaze within.

    Hope you enjoy a slower pace and feel refreshed soon.
    Seana – Sydney, Kids, Food + Travel recently posted..Plough and Harrow Park Playground in Western Sydney Parklands

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    • September 18, 2013 at 9:20 pm
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      Yeah its hard juggling too much at once and something had to give!!!

      I totally agree – I can take someone telling me something when they are talking in a respectful way. But shout at me and watch my back turn away.

      I guess time with my boys at the moment is way more important than anything online 🙂 And that is why I am taking it easier.

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  • September 14, 2013 at 10:55 pm
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    Oh Lisa, I’m sooooo sorry for what you’re going through! Please trust yourself as that is the last thing you will always have before a spouse, child, family or friends. Just you and your higher power! You are doing great! I’m so excited to get my first Subscribton post from you guys! 🙂
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    • September 18, 2013 at 9:29 pm
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      Thanking you Mike, its another Learning curve that’s for sure….where I discover that I am setting limits of who I share my time with and with how people speak to me 🙂

      Thanking you so much for your gorgeous support xx

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  • September 23, 2013 at 2:29 pm
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    Hi Lisa, I originally found your post here because I was looking for free camping places around Rockhampton…but then I started reading a bit and discovered you home school !! I got excited as we home schooled our 2 boys and walked a different walk to the norm, but I am so glad we did on account of some of the outcomes from it all. Keep it up and often those closest seem to be waiting for the ‘failure’ to happen. The thing is, you are prepared to put in the effort…24 hours a day, while others are not willing to be so self-sacrificing. Keep it up and enjoy the journey. Because we did home school, our boys were able to continue to be creative and connect to the outdoors…they weren’t criticised by peers, made to conform to them or have their psychological development stunted. Our boys finished schooling and they are still best friends and touring Queensland as our youngest is an amazing self-taught pianist (finalist on AGT in 2011-Chooka Parker) , whilst the oldest is his Manager and Roadie. I honestly don’t mind if you don’t see this post due to needing to break the strong drawing that the internet has (we have only had it 2 years now), and you certainly don’t have to reply. This is just to encourage you from a Mum who has been there and wants to encourage others. It’s important to connect with life around us and not just on a screen…we had a bonfire for my birthday the other night, and it was fantastic to be outside in the dark by the fire, listening to the crickets and frogs while watching the clouds float by in the bright moonlight 🙂 Take care, Kerry Parker

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    • September 23, 2013 at 6:37 pm
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      Oh Kerry Parker Your comment has made my day so very much…its so good to hear from you and from another Homeschooling Mums Journey.
      It is so good to have the support of others and to hear from those that have walked our steps before.

      Loved to hear that your Son is successful – and so creative with learning through the real world.

      We are loving that we are connecting offline and online with other like minded people. If you are ever down this way, we are up your way it would be great to catch up 🙂

      And happy Late Birthday – there is some special about a Bonfire xx

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  • September 24, 2013 at 9:22 am
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    Stay strong Lisa. I enjoy reading about your adventures on the road. All the best.

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