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The Call I Made And Would Do Again If I Had To

Posted by on February 19, 2013

Or Maybe this should be “The Call I Didn’t Want To Make But Had To“?

Please this is my life, my shoes that I am walking and we all do parenting different…but all have the same outcome – we want our kids to be happy n safe. If you feel like you would do things differently then I accept that, but I am here in my life living with my kids….

¬†Teenager Hormones are not easy to deal with, especially when you have five males in one household – gosh is the¬†testosterone huge in our Motorhome! I am surely outnumbered in many ways…

The last three weeks have been very challenging to say the least and the other day things spun out of control – way out of what I would ever think could happen.

If I could do anything differently it would be to have more control over my thoughts…

The Call I Made And Would Do Again If I Had To….

I made a call, and people came to help. I didn’t want to make the call, and I was crying as I spoke….and shaking.

But What Could We Do?

It helped calm the situation down for the time they were there, but it hasn’t changed our situation within our family. So we are seek help from other sources….

I keep turning around in circles and not knowing what to do, or where to go for help.

Why in Australia is there not enough help for our teenagers?

For the teenagers who can’t express them self in a safe way?

And why as parents do we feel so very guilty for asking for help from outsiders?

I don’t get why I feel guilty for writing this, but I need to get it out of my head, and I need to sort through feelings so I can understand what to do next.

Even starting to look through Forums (I am not into Forums…they are not my thing- yeah even though I set one up for New Life on the Road!) for suggestions on what books to read regard raising teenage sons.

Today was the first day in a very long time where our home felt at ease, and I could relax. SO I grabbed a girly book and I sat down to read. It was so good for the soul….

And maybe that is something I am lacking – finding time for myself?

Or maybe my parenting skills are lacking…but then again I do have other sons who are really happy…so I do not know anymore.

Life is good – really good – when our household is happy. They are the times I live for. I only hope there is more of those days ahead.

This weekend I am escaping – going to see family that I haven’t seen in a very long time, and only taking one of my boys. I really need time out – and I think that it will be good for all of us.

And one of our boys is going to stay with other family members for a change of scenery.

David will home alone (with two or three of our boys – depends on how many I take with me!!) for the weekend.

He also needs the break – he has to deal with my heart ache, and with his boys heart aches….so a weekend will be good for him.

Do you know how small a Motorhome becomes when there is not harmony within? Its smaller than a toilet block at a shopping centre!

So this weekend coming up I will be offline.

And I will be searching for services in the area. To help us all.

Its the only thing I have.

It has to be enough.

How Do You Deal With Teenager Hormones Who Cant Express Themselves?

Thanking for following our Journey.

Cheers

Lisa

New Life on the Road.

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10 Responses to The Call I Made And Would Do Again If I Had To

  1. Jo

    Ahhhh Lisa,

    Life is intricately amazing is it not? And then it’s amazingly intricate.

    I’m sending you some sanity, and for Dave and the boys too.

    Are you not a loving mother? Is your family not full of lovely loving people. Its a bit of a bugger looking at the shadows some days, I know. And they are our shadows as much as anyone else’s. Funny thing about being human. This is just a bit of an issue that’s happened here. And yes, it’s easy to think otherwise at times.

    How long have you been a parent for? And how many challenges have you had along the way: And did you not meet them head on and deal with them as best you could, so that you could find new ways of being and doing? And how could you all become more if you didn’t falter along the way?

    All will be well. Trust the immense love that you all have for each other – its sometimes easy to not see it for the clouds. Like the clouds however, they are merely particles and growth-giving water between us and the sun. So it is with the love of ALL of your family – and we readers and friends all know of this for we’ve all walked with you all this time. We KNOW. When you’ve had a chance to breathe you will all remember too. It’s just a glitch. Don’t let it get any bigger by making statements that have full stops at the end – unless they include ‘I LOVE YOU!!!!!’ (spoken with joy and pleasure, and not as a reason for being anything other than your love.)

    “A toilet in a shopping centre” is a pretty appropriate thing and had me cracking a grin. Don’t let this be anything more than a blip on the 60 or 70 years you will all know each other for. Your family, all of you, are special and important. (And I’ve sometimes encountered an 80 year old ticking off their 60ish kid.) It’s life. You’ll be fine.

    Take your time. Nurture yourselves. It Will all work out if you can but stand back and let it. It’s an honour to have recieved the sharing of your thoughts you’ve let us all see over these years. I’m looking forward to a happy ending – and if it takes a bit of a while to heal then that’s ok. Family is family. Nothing will change that. You’ll see. :)

    Love you.

    • Lisa

      Hi Jo,

      OH thanking you so very much…I was crying while reading your gorgeous comment.
      I sure need to find time for myself at the moment because I am finding parenting very challenging – and not sure whats the best solution for us all.
      Thanking you for reminding that I can do this – and yep I have been parenting teenage years before (and yeah our older son is alive and happy!!)
      I sure am in the need to step back and see the bigger picture. xxxx

  2. budget jan

    I think a lot of us have been in similar situations, but it would be so much worse in a motorhome. No space to get away and calm down. Hope your separate week-ends work wonders for family dynamics.
    budget jan recently posted..Tuesday in Townsville – Outriggers on the Strand

    • Lisa

      Hi Jan,

      Yeah its been very challenging these last few weeks – and I am so looking forward to R & R time over the weekend :)

      Cheers
      Lisa

  3. Little Gumnut

    Hey Lisa, I don’t know at all how to deal with teenage sons in small places but one place I do know that gives excellent advice for kids of all ages is a website (and organization) in New Zealand called theparentingplace.com They have some awesome parenting courses, a drop in centre (sadly in Auckland!) and even do trips over to Australia and speak at different venues. They also have a lot of online resources. Will be praying that things get easier for you and David and your boys. love,
    Sophie
    Little Gumnut recently posted..Birthday girl

    • Lisa

      Hi Sophie,

      I haven’t heard of the New Zealand organization – will check it out.

      We are in need of a service that can offer solutions so I am very grateful for mentioning a place to look at.

      Be good to find something that help with self esteem and motivation!

      Cheers
      Lisa

  4. Karel "Karel on tour"

    Hi Lisa.
    We have been traveling for many years here thru Africa.I wish I could tell you that this problem is uncommon in traveling families but the truth is it is not.Living in a bus conversion makes it a bit difficult as well. Not enough privacy and not enough space.Many is the time that I wish I could send the children to their rooms so that I could calm down be before I slap them silly.
    We have three children of witch our oldest son is twenty thee, our middle daughter is fifteen and the youngest daughter is six. The age difference makes is very difficult for the children to do things together. All thou our oldest sun finished Uni and is working in the city of Pretoria he comes to visit a few times a year.Keeping peace between the girls is another story.
    We are a very conservative family and I am very strict to keep the family rules in tacked.I don’t think that you should be to worried things will sort them self out.
    I found that as soon as we stop at one place for to long the and the children gets board the tension starts building.But as soon as we move off to new places and new adventures thy calm down again.
    Every family is different and special in its own way.
    Enjoy your travels.
    Karel

    • Lisa

      Hi Karel,

      Thanking you for so much for your support. We are in one spot for the year, and that in itself is part of the issue – for me as much as it is for our sons…I have such itchy feet!!
      We are taking one day at a time at the moment..and taking it very slowly.
      Sure is a challenging role we take on when we have children, but very rewarding when they grow up ok.

      Good to hear we are not alone with our parenting issues. Thanking you xxx

  5. Lisa from Gone With The Family

    Parenting a teenager has got to be one of the most difficult things we’ll ever do. Mine yells at us a lot, stomps off to her room and slams doors to get away from the rest of us – I can’t imagine what it would be like dealing with her moods in a confined space! I’ll be thinking of you, Lisa – and hoping the situation improves!
    Lisa from Gone With The Family recently posted..Planning for 2013 – Not as Easy as It Once Was

    • Lisa

      Hi Lisa,

      It sure is very challenging to say the least!!

      I think that a room with a door to slam would be ideal at the moment…if me that is :)

      The weekend escape was so very good for the soul, and one that I will be doing on a regular basis from now on.

      Teenagers :)

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